Chattering Monkeys

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

This guy at work I met only yesterday was friendly and talked to me a lot. I thought he was just friendly until he started complimenting me. (O_O) Then this morning he texted me asking me out on a date, dinner and movies, and I'm just like (O_O) I just met you dude. But then he said that's why we'll go out, to get to know each other. This would be Friday... I'm just shaken since this is like, suddenly someone likes me. That is so weird. I need advice. (o_o) You guys are the wrong people to ask, I guess, but yeah.

Dark · Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 261

Is he cute? ^_^

Well, you could go, just for a friendly kind of thing first, I think. My last dating plan at the beginning of the year had been to double so it takes some of the pressure off of me. It was just Sree though, so it didn't work, even though I asked him to bring someone...

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

Not really. I'm not big on judging for looks, he's really cool so far tho. He's kinda heavy but not in a gross way like some fat people, he's shorter than me and has that "big-boned" kind of body or whatever. (I described his hair for you but for everyone else, it's weird... like buzz-cuts on the sides, I'll tell you in person). He wrestles lol. And he's 21 (it was funny when I said I went to school and he was like "How old are you?" really kinda fast, and he seemed a bit relieved when I said 18. lol)
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He'd be the type of person to be like, "okay weirdo" if I suggest that tho I wish I could do that. I'm not comfortable with strangers as you guys know, when I got to know you guys I was probably really quiet etc (especially since it was middle school and I was worse then, or early high school) until I knew you for like a year or I talked to you some other way. It would be a really awkward date, I'm guessing, unless he's understanding and talks the whole time himself. Lol

Dark · Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 261

X_X AH! I got molested by a sophomore!

Anywho...he sounds interesting. I think you should go. Go bowling! Lol. I found the movies awkward on a first date though because it's all dark and crap...and then the movie might not be that good so I don't know. I suggest a friendly atmosphere where you could get to talk and stuff instead of sitting 2 hours in a quiet setting. But I don't know. You know my luck with that stuff Rolling Eyes

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

Yeah I always thought that going to the movies was a stupid date. And eating in front of someone I'm not familiar with is a bit shy-inducing. And if he paid I'd feel bad because of my guilt complex. Lol, bowling... I'll suggest something else. I just assumed I'd start dating in college and have a guy friend first instead of just someone random.

I just found it wierd that he asked me on a date but if you wanted to hang with a friend you just invite them to something and not call it a date. He called it a date and now he's like "friends first".. O_O

Dark · Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 261

It's not stupid, necessarily, but not as a first date. When you know each other better, it's more comfortable. Eating...I never had a problem eating in front of people so I don't know about that one ^_^; I'll assume if you went and did something eating would be involved.

Well, I'd just text back (if you havent already) that that's what you do want first anyway and what he would be interested in doing. OMG, you should go club with him. Lol.

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

LOL I could and dance up on him. That would be hilarious, too bad I'm not outgoing enough to do that. And I bet he doesn't dance. Razz

I told him I don't have any experience with this so he should be more clear. Him saying "we'll go from [being friends]" doesn't make sense, because going on a date means you think of them as a potential mate. I guess I just don't have any clue about dating, maybe I'm totally wrong. The word means, "An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest." So maybe he didn't even mean it romantically, and if that's the case that's embarassing that I assumed that. But a movie and dinner thing is a romantic date so... Confused

I'll just go wherever he wants to go and see what it's like. I don't immediately like someone romatically tho (unless they're hott Shocked

), I have to know them better. So I already feel like he's a friend/acquaintance type of person and not a potential boyfriend. I have no idea if he'll make moves on me tho, like if it's a romantic date I'm sure he might, and then I'd freak out. Lol.

But at least now I know I'm not totally repulsive. And knowing a 21 year old has it's advantages.

Orpheus · Joined: 20 Apr 2007 Posts: 250

Yea, then you can get someone else to buy you alchohol. You guys are both losers. I know I'm not any good, but geeze. What's wrong with movies? I like them because I just need to get used to the presence of someone else. A movie is a good way to get used to someone being right next to you without any talking involved. ANd if any guy tries to feel you up on a first date at a movie, you know they're perverts and you can get rid of them right there.

Eating probably won't be a good thing for you to do on a date until you learn how to chew with your mouth closed.

I'm not attracted to short and pudgy, though, so I would have rejected him like immediately. I'm evil, but I don't care.

Darth · Guest

Movies might work if you weren't wishing it was over quicker so you can get away from the person. Confused

I don't think silence gets a relationship very far but to each their own. A movie might work for you but not necessarily MB.

But I dunno, you have all this week to get a feel for how he's like, Caitlin, so you can always back out later.

(For some reason, it won't let me post under my username >_O)

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

? Why wouldn't it let you post?

Yeah, I don't know if I'll ever be attracted to him now matter how awesome he is if he stays overweight (^_^; )

The only things I chew with my mouth open at all is big crunchy things and you kind of have to open your mouth to bite down because it's crunchy. I do chew with my mouth closed mostly. You make everything extremes, you know that? I just wanted to tell you that because if I say something or do something once you make it seem like it happens all the time. (O_o)

Movies are just movies to me, sometimes I turn to someone and say something but other than that rare occurrence I could do it by myself. Tho I guess it's a good point I can get used to their presence.

And oh yeah, & he isn't scheduled at any time that I'm there except for Saturday, I think. So I won't talk to him except for phone/text or whatever. (@_@)

Dark · Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 261

It just takes me to preview and everytime I click 'submit' it just continues to take me to preview...@_@ I can logon now, I think.

Yeah, my preferences would keep me from giving him a chance...and any romantic interest would have to be taller than me.

I'm working on it since you said I chew with my mouth open, Jon...I dont think I do it that much though. If I do, my bad though.

I feel more comfortable with friends at movies so if I date for like, 5 months or something, we could go, if it's an action flick or something, of course.

Well that's useless.

Darth · Guest

(Tell us how the date went...if you even decided to go Shocked

)

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

Bleh! I did go, since I wanted to see the movie though I knew it'd be awkward... and it was. I don't function well around strangers one-on-one. Total strangers I'll never see again I handle well at work, but someone trying to be personal with me that's a stranger just makes me nervous, I guess. Not like a jittery nervous but a social nervous.

And he made it worse by asking me questions way too much. Like after we got the tickets and he was getting stuff he asked me if I wanted a drink. I said no, I had candy and stuff... I actually had my bottle. And I didn't want to seem weird like why I bring water with me everywhere, and explain it and stuff... So he was like "Do you want a drink? Like water or something?" And so I gave in and said yes. Then he asked me if I wanted any candy. No. (^_^; ) Then in the movie theater we had to sit through previews since he asked to meet early so we could talk, which I didn't want to do but whatever, he kept trying to talk. But everything that came out of his mouth was negative, pretty much. Like annoyed at things. And he threw candy at the screen. (O_o) I ended up just thinking how much I didn't like him, not dislike him but not like him. And during the movie, since it was Disturbia and kind of scary, I was laughing as usual and smiling and jumping when something startled me and he kept asking me if I was okay. Like, 5 times or more during the extent of the scary parts. That was annoying... And his elbow kept touching me, and after like the 3rd time I realized he was trying to make contact like I've read about but I didn't want to, so kept drawing back anyway. Lol.

When the movie was over we awkwardly walked together and I was like "so are we going home now" and he was like "if you want". By this point I had a headache--not a good sign as my mom said lol--and yes I did, but I didn't want to tell him I had a headache. Especially since it was his fault (^_^; ) It was one of those that's caused by tight shoulder muscles so I was uptight but didn't notice til I had a headache. But anyway when we separated to go to our cars he opened his arms for a hug. And of course I was like, no... And he was like "Hug" and I was like "I don't like hugs, I'm sorry," so we shook hands instead. Lol. I bet he thinks it's because I didn't want to hug him. (^_^; )

If he asks me on another date I'm definitely telling him no. I really don't like him. I thought I'd give him a chance but he is like really definitely not my type. I don't know what type of person is compatible with me yet but definitely not him. (>_< )

Crazy ho · Joined: 26 Apr 2007 Posts: 36

LOL

I'm sorry but that just sounds funny.

He probaly got kinda mad at you since you never really talked. Most people who don't want to talk ask the other person questions so the pressure is off of them to talk. Throwing candy at the screen was a bit much though, it sounds like he was a bit childish.

You shouldn't lie to him though. You were probably WAY too uncomfortable to have fun, I don't think it had anything to do with weather or not you liked him. It probably had more to do with the fact that it was your first date. I think everyone's first date is at least a little awkward. You were just too nervous and everything to have fun and loosen up. Try just getting to know him at work for a while first.

Mechanical Bunny · Site Admin Joined: 19 Apr 2007 Posts: 223

Yeah, that's good advice. I was already dreading going so I should have just cancelled it or something. The movie was pretty good though! A bit boring in the beginning but then the cool part came and it was all good.

He does seem childish. He also has a ton of learning disabilities. I can't like someone who is 'dumb' and not mature, on top of smoking and overweight. That's so bad that the first guy to like me is so unlikable. (^_^; )

I'm sure he was mad or doesn't like me since he hasn't called or texted me since the date. WHOOT! >cough< I mean, that's too bad. Rolling Eyes

He prolly wants me to text him first...